The Art of Friendship: "Date Your Friends"

Small deposits build big returns.

If you missed the first newsletter on friendship, you'll want to read it here.

Also, we aren't just about talking about connection; we are actively creating experiences for YOU. This fall, we have virtual events designed for you to have Connection, Community (and Cocktails!).

Oct 2 | Fireside: The Art of Friendship II

Oct 24 | LEGACY Mastermind Virtual Launch

Nov 6 | Vision + Strategy Workshop for the New Year

Nov 13 | Virtual Happy Hour {free}

Dec 4 | Fireside on Making Your Holidays Mindful

Friendships Don’t Happen by Accident

I coach a number of people who are part of EO (Entrepreneurs' Organization). Part of what makes that network unique is that it is made up of accomplished business owners who generate a minimum of $1M each year. You'd think that members would be fulfilled given their successes... and yet, most of what I coach on is their desire for friendship and connection. Men and women alike, by the way.

These clients tend to focus so much on their businesses that friendships fall by the wayside. So while there is an expressed desire for connection, the day to day is not generally reflecting what they want. Connection can wane, and loneliness can set in amidst the financial successes.

My #1 coaching direction for these clients is simple: "Make time to date your friends."

Here’s the truth: Adult friendships require focus and effort - just like dating. Strong friendships are created and nurtured through repeated shared experiences over time. In essence, your friendships will only be able to grow to the extent that you show up for them.

For many of us, life moves fast, and sometimes friend-time can feel like another item on the to-do list.

But unlike laundry, friendships are investments that literally pay dividends — in joy, resilience, and longevity.

Are you making time for your friendships? Where are you giving dedicated time to them in your calendar?

Client Friendship Success Story

One client is a very busy business owner and a single mother of four kids with a high demand on her time. In a session, she recognized that she missed her friends and that she wanted to start being proactive in prioritizing them.

She made a very simple and clear commitment: She would invite her girlfriends to a happy hour once every 4 weeks, and she would call one of her friends at least once a week on her commute to her clients. Small commitments yet powerful in their impact.

One happy hour per month and one call per week were all that my client needed to revolutionize her friendships within a few weeks. Her friends expressed how much this meant to them; they began calling her more, they all felt more connected, and she felt like her friendships began to thrive in ways they hadn't in a long time.

What is one thing you can do to increase your attention and proactivity with at least one friend?

The Science of Friendship

Don’t underestimate the impact. Adults with strong friendships report lower depression and anxiety, higher levels of happiness, and stronger immune function.*

And the Harvard Study of Adult Development — one of the longest-running studies on happiness — found that the single greatest predictor of health and fulfillment isn’t money or career success. It’s the strength of your relationships.

Action Prompt

Choose one current friendship to intentionally invest in this week. Send a thoughtful note, leave a voice memo, plan a coffee date, or share a memory that matters. Small deposits build big returns.

As you take this action, I ACTUALLY want to know about it! What are you doing for this? Please reply back and tell me how you're loving up the people you hold dear.

With love,

Citations: *Umberson & Karas Montez, 2010

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